I’m sure you’ve had a million and one questions about finding your calling. Even if you’re not new to faith, I’m sure you are a purposeful, career and goal-driven woman. Otherwise, I don’t think you’d be curious about understanding your calling.
This self-discovery journey that we are on can be very confusing. It can also be very discouraging along the way. But my prayer is that this post encourages you.
If you have ever wondered “Why didn’t someone tell me this?” I wrote this specifically for you. I’ve narrowed down the lessons I’ve learned to about 11 things you NEED to know about finding your calling.
Let’s get started!
1. Your Calling Will Scare You
Fear is the #1 lie that postpones our dreams. Naturally, God’s dreams are bigger than our dreams. So after the excitement of knowing your calling goes away, fear kicks in.
I don’t understand why that happens, but a lot of the time it’s because we get insecure. On the other hand, fear is a good indicator that your calling is from God. If that’s the case, the fear isn’t supposed to cripple us. It just shows how much we need the Lord.
God wouldn’t give us a dream, gift, skill, or calling if we can’t use it. And He wouldn’t allow us to give up on it either.
I can’t tell you how many times God reminded me of my calling when I tried giving up. God had this way of encouraging me through sermons and through other people.
Saying “yes” to God’s plan can be scary. But the best thing you can do is surround yourself around things and/or people that inspire and motivate you.
I like reading books about other people on their journey. Documentaries and YouTube videos of people doing what I want to do helps! I also pay attention to my body, mental health and I don’t neglect self-care. Small lifestyle changes help you perform to your optimal potential.
I have a list of my fears in the notes app on my phone. And right next to every fear, I have the rebuttal from Scripture or from the things God has said to me. I challenge you to do the same.
Make a list of 5-10 fears and the rebuttals. Carry it with you and look at it daily. This action means you are deciding to not let fear get to you.
2. You Will Need To Fight To Keep Your Calling
Fighting for your calling also means you need to resist laziness and procrastination. The worst thing you can do is take what you have for granted and do absolutely nothing with it.
You can combat this by discovering your “why” and replacing bad habits with better ones.
Let’s start with the “why”. Your “why” will keep you motivated. Why do you do what you do? Why do you feel this burning desire to help certain people?
When it comes to your calling, you have to pray and protect it. I believe you are fully equipped but you will need to defend what you do and walk in boldness. And trust what you already have.
If you struggle in this area, stick to what you know is true and your feelings will have to catch up. Try confessing this over yourself:
3. You Can Serve God In Uncommon Industries
I love the arts and I’ve dabbled in the entertainment biz because that’s where my heart has always been. But rededicating my life to Christ, it didn’t take long for me to fall into a deep comparison problem. Have you ever questioned your significance in a certain industry?
I noticed that we dismiss some callings by automatically deeming them uncommon (or worldly) because we don’t understand how God can use professions that don’t directly serve people.
For example, we will never question how God can use a teacher or doctor. These jobs require sacrifice and support others. But what about those called to entertainment or the arts? That’s a question that no one can answer but God.
Like I mentioned earlier, I’m a fan of the arts. I’m like a serious fan. I enjoy dance, acting, and improvisation. If I feel free to create, I love it! Recently I was blessed with an opportunity to be a princess for a ministry that visits children in need.
It’s something that I believe God prepared me for while I was growing my acting skills. He used my quirkiness and love for theatre to show His love and provide hope. How cool is that?!
If you are uncertain about the area you’d been called to, ask God to confirm it. Find mentors that know God and can pray with you.
4. God Gives Us Desires But Not All Desires Are From God
The flip-side to having all of these awesome skills and talents is that some desires aren’t from God. This kind of confusion is a result of our busy schedules or our inability to let things go.
The busier we get, the harder it is to hear God. When we are not consistently spending time with God, our sense of direction can get a little fuzzy.
Confusion is like a cousin to discouragement. It slows us down and takes us off course. When this happens, desires that have nothing to do with God become more appealing.
Passion is a beautiful thing and is often linked to our calling but prioritizing God’s will over your own helps keep things in perspective.Whatever your calling may be, you have to honestly ask yourself if you are in alignment with God’s will:
- What did you spend the most time doing?
- Are you hiding anything?
- What are your values?
- Is what you’re doing edifying?
5. You Don’t Need Approval From Other People
It feels so good when someone believes in your calling. I know it’s not necessary but validation from certain people just makes me feel like a superhero. When sharing my plans with other people, I learned a bittersweet yet valuable lesson.
I told a few people about writing and the direction I wanted to take my blog. Instead of excitement, I got some strange looks. Definitely not the response I was looking for.
I could have let it get to me but I’ve realized that not everyone can support you the way you need and that’s okay. I have found so many communities and groups of women that have encouraged me.
I’m literally in 10+ groups for bloggers and writers. We share content and encourage each other. I can now get the support I need from women who just get it.
You can find a community by looking up group meet-ups. (I was never a fan of Facebook until I started blogging. Now me and FB are besties. Practically sistas.)
6. God Will Always Direct You
This is #1 for me. ( Even though it’s #6 on the list) Before Christ, I was trying to find my way on my own. I knew I had a purpose. I knew I wanted to do great things. But the moment I got to know God, the calling of becoming a writer was revealed to me.
You don’t need to worry about figuring out every detail concerning your calling. You will get direction in every area as long as you ask in prayer and wait for God.
7. There is Purpose in Everything You Do
Not gonna lie, I wanted to quit my job…several times. I hated the sacrifices that I needed to make. It’s not easy being a wife, active in church and ministry, working a full-time and trying to get my dream career going.
Every time I got overwhelmed, I looked for ways to simplify my life. And sometimes a reason to get rid of things that made me uncomfortable.
Knowing your calling doesn’t mean you stop doing what you’re doing. It means you search for the purpose, opportunities to help others and God’s direction.
Truthfully, you are called to different things. For example, we are calling to:
- Relationship with God
- Marriage and/or Children
- Jobs (even if you don’t like them)
- Share the Gospel
- Fellowship with Other Christians
- Practice Our Talents
Everything we do for God’s glory is important. And let’s face it, you can’t quit your job. You need to find a way to invest in your dream!
8. Respect Your Gift By Doing Your Best
Just like you, I’m a visionary. But I’ve never done life with God until now so I wasn’t sure how to be a visionary for God. I got a lot of ambiguous advice in this area. I thought I had to tone myself down. Honestly, I thought if I did my best then I was putting the task before God.
And that, my friend, was not true at all.
We must respect our gift because we know Who gave it to us and who we were assigned to help. We must nurture and grow in our skills. There is always something to learn. There is always a reason NOT to take your gift for granted.
9. You Don’t Need To Be Afraid of Success
Ah, this was another one of my fears as I was learning what it meant to be humble. Fear of success is actually a thing. Yeah, had no idea.
I thought being humble meant I had to say “no” to really cool opportunities. Honestly, I didn’t know how to glorify God so I didn’t want to take any chances..
Here’s the thing, doing your best at what God called you to do isn’t a bad thing. You just have to include Him in the process. Chances are we may not know how God will use anything that we do and that’s okay.
Nowadays, if the opportunities can help me reach my goal, I do it. If I’m unsure, I ask God to remove my desire or to close the door.
10. You Can Become Content With Not Knowing Everything
Or you can successfully think about something else. Honestly, this is a skill that I’m still working on because I like details.
For as long as I can remember, I always broke open the fortune cookies before I ate whatever Chinese food we ordered. I never cared for the cookie, I only wanted to know what the fortune said.
Even in school, I always took my test backward. Needless to say, surprises were never my thing. But when it’s a God thing, the information you know is because you can handle it. If someone like me can be okay with that, I think you can too.
Now that I know better, I don’t check the fortune cookies. Instead, I check my heart to make sure I’m leaning on God for understanding. If you tend to overthink or over-complicate things, allow God to work in that area by praying for help.
11. It’s A Process That You Can Choose To Enjoy
You ever notice how time can move so slowly when you are constantly staring at the clock? Time can be super discouraging especially if you look around and you see people doing what you want to do.
That discouragement can put is in a really negative and envious head-space. If we complain, that can even slow down the process.
And nobody wants to go around the same mountain over and over because we can’t stop complaining about what we don’t have yet. What we can do is focus on ways to enjoy the process and other mundane things.
I combat my negative thoughts by:
- Being proactive about expressing my gratitude
- Allowing myself to be excited over little things that I enjoy
- Simplifying my schedule
- Being present when with loved ones
- Engaging on social media only when I need to
- Giving myself days off for adventures
I really hope you found this post helpful. What’s something you wish someone told you about finding your calling? Leave a comment below.
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